How I will honor Dominique

Filed in National by on December 24, 2008

We have had it out time and again but hopefully the italian tempers we both have will not clould the obvious similarities we share.

Several of the books from the reading list that Nemski gathered for me were/are out at the library and I started a few of my own to get a feel for how long it will take me to complete a book. I plan on reading as many as possible by the way.

At the end of the post Dominique suggested I read

‘Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close’ by Jonathan Safran Foer

So perhaps join me in reading this book. I’m on page 80 after just an hour of reading and It is wonderful and wierdly appropriate.

I too had a daughter at 19 and I struggle with her daily I hope all will be ok with you and yours. Truly.

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  1. Dominique says:

    Thanks, Donviti. It’s a beautiful book. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.

    Please make sure your children know how much you love them every single day, especially your daughter.

    Ashley was so difficult over the last 5-10 years of her life and sometimes…frequently…I was not as kind as I should have been. I am haunted by the thought that my daughter died thinking that I did not love her. I wish I had asked her every night if she had any idea how much I loved her and how unbelievably proud I was of her.

  2. Dom, I am sorry I never got to meet Ashley. Your tribute to her is powerful. She was probably alot more forgiving of you than she let on. No doubt she knew you loved her and that she struggled with knowing that she didn’t acknowledge it.
    I am very sorry for your loss.

  3. Dominique says:

    Thank you, Nancy.

  4. Unstable Isotope says:

    Does Dom have a charity or fund set up to honor Ashley’s memory? Please let us know.

  5. Joanne Christian says:

    Faithful Friends
    12A Germay Drive
    Wilmington, DE. 19804

    h/t Ashley Vadala!!!

    Sounds like a wonderful place–shelter, immunization, spaying/neutering assistance, adoptions, etc. for dogs and cats. Special service for those unable thru age or illness to continue to care for their pet, but don’t want to euthanize.
    Hope that helps.

  6. Steve Newton says:

    Dominique
    Our children are capable of simultaneously “thinking” we don’t love them, and “knowing” on a much deeper level in their spiritual being that we do. What is amazing is that they cannot see any difficulty with holding these two positions at the same time.

    “Knowing” always trumps “thinking” where it counts.

    Contrary to your fears, I am quite sure she heard and completely understood the last rendition of “Brown-eye Girl.”