Wedding QOD

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What is the standard wedding gift these days? 

I apologize to Von Cracker in advance of the answers I think I may get

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  1. liberalgeek says:
    October 12, 2009 at 12:42 pm

    Tax cuts

  2. arthur says:
    October 12, 2009 at 12:45 pm

    $100

  3. Scott P says:
    October 12, 2009 at 12:57 pm

    45% of the time — The number of a good divorce attorney.

    Seriously, I’d say cash or gift in the $50 – $100 range, depending where on the scale they fall between beloved family member and wife’s co-worker’s sister.

  4. h. says:
    October 12, 2009 at 1:04 pm

    I never give one at the actual wedding, as long as you give one within a year.

    So using that formula I base my contribution on a few criteria: 1) was the liquor top shelf 2) how was the food 3) most important ….. live bands get you a better gift than a dj

  5. Scott P says:
    October 12, 2009 at 1:15 pm

    You do realize that you’re giving a gift to help the couple begin their life together, not leaving a tip for dinner, right? 🙂

    That being said, I’m curious. Does the hottness of the bride or bride’s maids come into play at all? How about the length of the service? I’d tip gift more for a “Let’s say us some vows and grill us some cows” type thing than a long, drawn out service.

  6. pandora says:
    October 12, 2009 at 1:16 pm

    Are they registered? If so, that makes it easy.

  7. nemski says:
    October 12, 2009 at 2:13 pm

    Way to bring the conversation down Mom. 😉

  8. anon says:
    October 12, 2009 at 2:25 pm

    Cash is good for those couples who need it. For couples who don’t really need the cash, best to find a small but meaningful gift.

    Our rule of thumb is the gift should cover the cost of the dinner and then some. The per-head cost is usually more than you would think.

  9. Progressive Mom says:
    October 12, 2009 at 2:34 pm

    If it’s “young couple, first marriage, proud moms and dads beaming” wedding: cash, as anon said above, or the registry for something long term (silver, china, crystal).

    If it’s “professional, established couple, living together for years, now marrying”, especially if they have hosting a high-end wedding: it’s something from the registry for the long term or something sentimental/ luxurious (high-end dining certificates, wines, photo of the couple you took at the beach three years ago in a lovely frame, etc.)

    If it’s third marriage for him, second for her: use your judgement based on the size and scope of the reception. That’s really the only way to “gift” folks who have been there and done that many times before. (Or just don’t go and send a nice congrats card!)

  10. Von Cracker says:
    October 12, 2009 at 3:25 pm

    Your presence, DV, is more than enough!

    That, and losing to my new bride’s fantasy football team this week!

    lololololol

  11. Donviti says:
    October 12, 2009 at 3:58 pm

    bite me.

    started the wrong freaking QB!

    Still have a shot with my RB dickface

  12. Von Cracker says:
    October 12, 2009 at 4:53 pm

    HA!

  13. Unstable Isotope says:
    October 12, 2009 at 7:39 pm

    Everyone can use money.

    I agree with pandora. It matter whether it is a couple that doesn’t have much and a professional couple that has it all.

    If they have a registry, get something off of that. Otherwise, money good. One of my hubby’s favorite wedding gifts was grilling tools. The spatula had a bottle opener on the end.

  14. Donviti says:
    October 12, 2009 at 7:57 pm

    how much money UI…what is the ‘standard’

  15. Unstable Isotope says:
    October 12, 2009 at 8:14 pm

    I don’t know if there is a “standard.” I would probably give about the same amount of money I was planning to spend on a gift. Maybe around $100?

  16. anon says:
    October 12, 2009 at 9:52 pm

    From you? A Donviti classic poem ought to be perfect.

  17. Donviti says:
    October 13, 2009 at 8:56 am

    HA! HA! HA!

  18. weddings says:
    October 13, 2009 at 3:02 pm

    Get something from the registry and you’re done.

  19. Brian Shields says:
    October 15, 2009 at 12:15 pm

    Reception memories last forever…

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