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The eternal question now has an answer.  Go on, read Prager’s stellar insight into why women, and women alone, hold the power of a happy marriage… and are subsequently at fault when the marriage fails.

Prager gives us 8 reasons – which he promptly discards as nonsense before instructing women to lie back and think of England.

Let’s review them, shall we…

1. If most women wait until they are in the mood before making love with their husband, many women will be waiting a month or more until they next have sex. When most women are young, and for some older women, spontaneously getting in the mood to have sex with the man they love can easily occur. But for most women, for myriad reasons — female nature, childhood trauma, not feeling sexy, being preoccupied with some problem, fatigue after a day with the children and/or other work, just not being interested — there is little comparable to a man’s “out of nowhere,” and seemingly constant, desire for sex.

Ladies, are you paying attention?  It’s our fault. Hell, it’s our nature!  What happened to the sex kitten he married?  God knows, he hasn’t changed his behavior towards sex.  

2. Why would a loving, wise woman allow mood to determine whether or not she will give her husband one of the most important expressions of love she can show him? What else in life, of such significance, do we allow to be governed by mood?

What if your husband woke up one day and announced that he was not in the mood to go to work? If this happened a few times a year, any wife would have sympathy for her hardworking husband. But what if this happened as often as many wives announce that they are not in the mood to have sex? Most women would gradually stop respecting and therefore eventually stop loving such a man.

What woman would love a man who was so governed by feelings and moods that he allowed them to determine whether he would do something as important as go to work? Why do we assume that it is terribly irresponsible for a man to refuse to go to work because he is not in the mood, but a woman can — indeed, ought to — refuse sex because she is not in the mood? Why?

Where to begin?  Should we start with woman must overcome their moods?  Because, we all know, that the reason a woman may not want to have sex has nothing to do with her partner’s behavior or mood.  Or, should we focus on Prager’s comparison of not going to work to not having sex.  And while certain acts can be called jobs, most women aren’t prostitutes.  At this point I’m beginning to understand why Prager felt the need to write this article – He’s not getting any, and after reading this tripe we all know why.

3. The baby boom generation elevated feelings to a status higher than codes of behavior. In determining how one ought to act, feelings, not some code higher than one’s feelings, became decisive: “No shoulds, no oughts.” In the case of sex, therefore, the only right time for a wife to have sex with her husband is when she feels like having it. She never “should” have it. But marriage and life are filled with “shoulds.”

It’s those damn Baby Boomer’s fault!  I don’t even know where to begin with the “should” vs “want” argument.  To me, sex is best when both partners want it, but, then again, I’m a woman so reason escapes me.