You tell me what you’d do?
UPDATE: I have fired off the first salvo. No response yet, but I may not get one, this fish can be tricky to hook at times.
Donviti: What happened at the meeting last night?
I’m going with the “catch in a lie” spinner bait. Let’s see how I do, unless she reads this blog, then I’m hosed! Foiled! Curses!
Then, after that I go with Disbeliefs paragraph for the open, sprinkle in Anon’s and offer an olive branch (eagles claw attached) then swoop in with Von Crackers Catholic Shame technique!
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Ok more dirty laundry for you… As Delaware’s hottest blogger I have to admit I do come with baggage ladies (and a wife, but we can work around that wink, wink) so I just thought I would share some of my more personal moments with my babie’s momma for you all as well as ask you the reader to help me a little too.
Take a read of the email dialog I had with the ex over the course of Tuesday and then read the surprise endingEX Wife: Are you planning on going to the Conrad parents meeting tomorrow night?
Donviti: Would have been nice to know about the meeting earlier, but yes, I guess I will be there. Can you give me more information such as time, teachers etc.
EX Wife: Details of the meeting were in the e-mail I forwarded you last week
Donviti: I didn’t get that email from you then. Please send it to me again Will you be going? Does daughter #2 need to go?
(ex-wife sent email regarding the meeting, nothing to see in that email, so I am moving on to next email after I recieved info on meeting)
Ex Wife: No she doesn’t have to go. And I will be going, so if you don’t feel like driving up to the Newark Library, I will pass along any information that I receive
Donviti: I have so much to do with getting my house back on the market, I don’t think I can make it
Ok, so now you got the jist of the email. I had a ton of stuff to take care of before my open house and I was up until 11pm painting so the fact that my daughters mother was going to the meeting in my mind justified me not needing to go. One parent is good and I can get anything forwarded to me that I may need. There is another one later on this summer and going forward I plan on attending any and all meetings that I can. I participate in all of my kids school meetings regardless if the ex goes or not. I didn’t this time only because I had so much to do.
Now follow along the discussion I had last night with daughter #2 at dinner
Donviti: So your mom is going to your parent meeting tonight huh?
Daughter: No, she went to the Phillies game and is having them email her the stuff
OMFG!!! I would have skipped the painting and the home repairs and driven down to Newark had I known she was going to go to a baseball fucking game! wtf is wrong with her. This is my daughters freshman year, at a new school
Seriously people what would you do? My catholic guilt has gotten the best of me and I should have gone. I knew it, I thought she would go, I thought it was ok for me not to go. Now I feel like a heaping pile of shit for not going. sigh
I am ready to send out an email this morning asking her if she stayed through the 14th inning to see Ryan Howard’s walk off home run, but I’m holding out….
You the audiance get to help me submit today’s email to my ex wife: the best submission will be sent or a combination of submitions will be created I need something by noon today, b/c I can’t wait much longer to send out something.
Tags: Donviti
Ex-Wife,
I’m not going to go over the tons of shit we’ve been through, I’m just going to tell you about my new system and leave it at that.
I am going to go to everything relating to our daughters from now on. If you know of a meeting please let me know about it as early as possible and I’ll plan on being there.
If some emergency comes up and I can’t make it I’ll let you know. Otherwise there is no need to ask about any meeting. Just assume I’ll be there.
I’d like us to turn over a new leaf. I know we both want the best for _____ and ____
so don’t try to read anything into this. It is just a system that I think will work best for everyone in the long run.
– DV
Dear ex-Wifey,
I’m a bit shocked that instead of attending the school function with our daughter you attended a baseball game. And, you broke a promise to me and our daughter to attend this function.
When did you adopt the sincerity of family values shown by Senator Prince Lil’ Johnny Still? Your word of honor is obviously worth almost as much as Bush’s promise of WMDs.
In order to protect yourself in the future from the disappointment of our daughter, perhaps you should hire Condy Rice as your spokesperson for things familial. That way, I’ll know ahead of time that everything is a lie.
Hate you,
Don
anon,
very good! I think I will use your opening and possibly the 3rd graph,
dis,
Opening is solid and I will used it for sure! the political stuff will be lost on her unfortunately.
Anon’s is way more mature than mine. But I like the vindictiveness better.
me too
Go with anon.
Let go of the past. Imagine that you are like a speedboat slicing through a perfectly still lake on a crisp bright morning.
Don’t concern yourself with the choppy wake.
Call the school and ask them to send you copies of all notices. Get on the distribution list for all district and school newsletters or email lists. Read all the newsletters for announcements of events. Check the district and school websites, paying particular attention to their “calendar” pages.
I am still laughing at the “Delaware’s hottest blogger” comment. That’s some funny shit.
Just wait till someone breaks your mirror, Dorian.
The ‘school as tool’….cut the crap….ex wanted to be certain you would NOT be there so she could ‘slip out the back, jack.’
Just do what anon #7 says to do…hope the school will cooperate with you.
Alternately: you must know one other parent in your childs’ class, get to know the home room teacher personally (call for a ‘drop in visit’…bring a plant or some paper/pen supplies, for the class room), or a coach…keep in touch with as many as possible…the responsibility is on you…when kids are older they may be able to give you a head’s up on meetings (and other things too).
No more expecting ex to do anything in your favor….move on….she can’t control you then.
(Yes I am a divorced Mom…it got better when my ex remarried…I got along well w/stepmom).
haven’t sent the letter yet.
thank you for all the suggestions.
Anon II,
the sad thing is that since I have been remarried the situation has gotten muuch, much worse.
anon,
I contacted the school this morning and made sure I got on the email lists and also offered myself up to any extra curricular events and let it be known that I would love to participate in future events.
It was also Cole Hamels bobble-head night! Too bad the 12-fingered freak, Alfonseca blew the win for him too.
Come on Don, as a recovering catholic, you should already know to go with the “shame” technique….
VC,
I turned on the game in the 9th to see them bring out the Polish Gun. I started laughing and was going to call you to bet that they blow it.
I would have lost the bet, but man, Charlie Manuel is an idiot. He still can’t get that double switch down.
Dorian,
I am not sure what is sooooo funny. It is very well documented that I am in fact Delaware’s hottest blogger.
Yeah, every team needs an overweight Pole 😉
Does ex-wifey read this blog? Don’t need yet another Venusian I-really-worship-them Goddess pissed at me.
Love you, babe.